For the most part throughout our lives we are taught being selfish is a bad thing, and you should always put others before you in order to be a “good” and “considerate” person, this might not be necessarily true in all cultures and bless them for not having this mindset.
In Western culture for the most part being selfish is wrong. With that mindset they fucked up.
The other cultures who don’t practice selfness above selfishness know that, in order to be a truly effective selfless person you need to be selfish.
Yeah, well it’s true, in order to give back and think of others and being considerate effectively you have to be 100% in touch with yourself.
To be 100% in touch with yourself you NEED to be selfish, you NEED to cancel those plans with your friend because you are tired and need to sleep, you NEED to tell your significant other to wash their own damn dishes because it’s simply not your job to pick up after them all the time, you NEED acknowledge that your friend has crossed the line regardless of the amount of times they saved your life and walk away from them,
Most importantly you NEED to stop blaming yourself for things that are out of your control.
Be selfish be angry, tell so and so they fucked up cause they did cause it will make you feel better. express yourself. Stop being so considerate all the fucking time.
When you stop being considerate, and selfless and stop taking shit from people, you learn more about yourself. After 24hours of doing everything you want to do, how you want to do it, when you want to do it, and just speaking however you want to speak no constraints.
You kind of get this super power, and with that super power you realize all those times you were “selfless” you weren’t really selfless because you were acting in a form to maintain an image follow an unspoken social rule
After you break all the rules and realize its actually healthy and not bad, when you choose to be selfless you are actually “selfless” because it isn’t an unspoken obligation but because you actually chose to be selfless knowing that you could be selfish.
If you do something out of duty and obligation you aren’t really doing something, but if you do it because it was your choice and you wanted to then you are 100% there and the whole point of selflessness is for it to be 100% you.